December 17, 2015

Our Christmas Tree

We weren't matched.  Once again disappointment.   Advent is the season of waiting and so we continue to wait.  Only one family was matched from Canada this time and one from Lesotho.   Things are continuing to move just as slow as ever.

I must admit that I have had something distracting me lately from obsessing over when this adoption will ever take place.  We are also awaiting news from a searcher we have hired in Addis Ababa to find our son's birth mom.  I can not promise you that if and when we hear news or find her that I will be able to share everything here because that is not my story to tell.  But I will be able to tell you if we can find her and make contact.  So far the search has been much more complicated than any of us could ever of imagined.  All I can think about lately is where is she?  How is she?  Does she know that Moses is loved and doing well?

The other week we went and cut down our Christmas tree.  When we brought it home my husband noticed this one branch that seemed more like a new tree growing off of the main one.  He called it a nurse tree.  I don't think this is an actual nurse tree as per the actual definition but as soon as he said it I thought to myself this branch symbolizes how Moses' birth mom is a part of our family.  She is here in everything.  In our son's smile, in our hearts, in our Christmas.  We would not be this family without her.  I continued decorating the tree with the kids and found our one special ornament I had bought from Ethiopia.  It is made of wood and quite heavy and so I began to look for a strong branch and quickly remembered "the nurse tree".  It was the perfect spot.  Everytime I look at it my heart thinks of her.






December 2, 2015

Update

Wow, I had no idea it had been THIS long since I last updated here.  As you might of guessed, we are still waiting.  The last meeting was a few months ago and we were not matched.  Adoptions in Lesotho have really slowed down.  In fact, our agency in Canada has only had 2 completed Lesotho adoptions in 2015.  We really hope things pick up in 2016 and more children can come into families.  The reason for the slowdown is apparently issues in collecting paperwork.  Children are really not adoptable without paperwork so it is so important for the social workers to be diligent.  Our agency can only do so much.  And of course many of us waiting families wonder if perhaps Lesotho just does not want to process more than a few adoptions each year.

Either way, we are still in it for the long haul.  Every time I see my 7 year old son interact with a toddler my heart is full.  I love seeing the nurturing side of my kids come out.  A side I rarely see in the way they interact with each other!  So it is nice to see when they are with their younger cousins.  I can't wait to see them welcome a new sibling(s) into our family.

Next meeting is in two days.  I promise to update sooner this time!

July 21, 2015

The End of Ethiopian Adoptions: How it Happened

A friend of mine from the adoption world wrote this extremely well written article on Ethiopian adoptions.  Please give it a read if this is something that interests you.


The End of Ethiopian Adoptions: How it happened


Lately it feels like the fate of all international adoptions is very bleak.  Just today another agency in Canada has closed their doors to all international adoptions.  If only a few are completed each year, it just doesn't seem like an adoption agency can afford to keep their doors open anymore.  

Lesotho news?  Well, we weren't matched at the last meeting in June but we're not giving up hope yet!  There are so many genuine orphans in Lesotho that need homes and we are waiting and waiting to be a child's family! We've officially had our file in country for one year.  I'm hopeful this next year will be it.





March 28, 2015

still waiting...

I was trying hard to not think about the upcoming matching meeting at the end of this month.

I tried really hard.

but then I saw this viral video




and then I went to see this movie



and then Beautiful Gate in Lesotho posts pictures like this...

















and my heart just kept thinking about the little person/people out there waiting for a family...


But then we got the surprising email from our agency just this week that the meeting was called on short notice earlier in the month and we were not matched.  Sigh.... it was quite shocking but in a way it is better than dragging out waiting for the results and feeling like this could be it for the next two weeks.  So now we wait again.

Till the next meeting 3 months from now...

January 25, 2015

No match

Well, we finally got word that we were not matched on the December 12th meeting.  It was a lot of weeks of waiting and thinking and I even started what felt like nesting at one point!

At first the meeting was scheduled for December  5th.  The night before a matching meeting has you checking what the current time in Lesotho is and basically falling asleep praying for the meeting as you know it will be happening sometime while you sleep!  Then come the days of waiting to hear the news.

But unfortunately we got the email that the meeting didn't happen at all because of paperwork!   I pretty  much expect stuff like this to happen but it is still disappointing every time.

After that, we have received word that things in the passport office (where they also print out birth certificates) were moving again and the meeting was to be held on the 12th.    Well, only one match was made out of all four countries/four agencies, and that match went to someone from our agency.  I believe it was for a single child.

So there you have it!  If adoptions continue to move at this slow of a rate (one match per meeting) it will be years before we bring home another child!!!

The next meeting is scheduled for the end of March......



So thankful for a trip to Hawaii to celebrate our 10 year anniversary after Christmas!  
Definitely helps time fly by.