November 5, 2014

update!

Wow, this is a very overdue update.  As you probably guessed we were not matched at the last matching meeting that was held during all the political unrest.  Surprisingly, no Canadian families were matched that time.  I'm not sure if this has happened before but only families from the other three countries were chosen.  We just received news last week that another matching meeting has been set!

November 28th!  So, we have a new date in our hearts and minds.  New hope.

On my birthday a couple weeks ago I woke up and turned my computer on and saw an update on the Beautiful Gate Facebook page welcoming one month old boy girl twins!  My heart literally leaped.  I immediately asked God, "Is this my birthday gift from you?  Seeing a picture of my future son and daughter?!"

I'm only writing this down on here in some bizarre for me act of faith in the hopes that if it is to be true I will be able to go back and read this blog entry and remember!!!

Oh those babies were so precious sleeping side by side in their cribs…

In reality, I don't even know if those two are adoptable.  And if they are, Lesotho has a 5 month policy where the orphanage must search for birth family and make sure no one else from their family could come forward and raise them.  I think this policy is actually quite amazing and even though it means we wouldn't be matched for a long time I am somehow okay with it all.

Okay, back to reality.  I promise to update again soon!


September 1, 2014

Political Unrest

So our stable and peaceful country in Africa has now been in the news…. a lot...over the weekend.  It doesn't sound good.  If you haven't heard you can read this article Lesotho in Limbo.

 One of the orphanages that I am "friends" with on Facebook has been giving updates on the political unrest as well and it has all of us waiting parents very worried.  Anyone in the adoption world knows that when a Prime Minister flees to South Africa because of a coup that this could also mean the entire adoption program at best could be put on hold, or at worst be stopped altogether.
I am really trying hard to hope that South Africa can intervene and help solve this crisis as soon as possible.  I can't imagine how scary it would be to be a police officer in Maseru right now.  People are literally breaking into their homes and stealing their uniforms and weapons.

All of this has also happened just after we received word from our agency that the matching meeting (long overdue) was going to be held on Friday the 29th.  Well, it appears the coup started that night…. so I'm not sure if the government workers even met that day.

Hopefully I will have an update soon.  I had felt so positive on Friday but now I'm not feeling so good.



July 23, 2014

quick update!

If anyone was waiting to hear…. no we were not matched at the last meeting.  Turns out there never was a meeting!!!  In typical African fashion it was post-poned until the end of August.

That's okay…. summer is flying by and I'm at peace with the wait so far.


June 27, 2014

Matching Meetings

Well, it's been a month since my last post and not much has gone on other than waiting.  This is basically what we will be doing for the next few years I'm sure.  Hm…. this blog is probably going to really get boring!   In an effort to post something I thought I would write a bit today on how the referral process works in Lesotho.

In Lesotho they run things differently than Ethiopia and other countries and they have what are called "matching meetings" every 3-4 months.  Each agency that they work with will have a certain number of files (dossiers) in the country and the social workers in Lesotho will look them over and find a family that they see as the best match for the children that are available for adoption.  Instead of just going based on a numeric list of whose dossier got to the country first and then matching them to the next available child, Lesotho seems to take a much more subjective approach.  Or at least this is my understanding of the process!  In some ways, I like this process more than the way things were done in Ethiopia.  Lesotho completes very few adoptions and things seem to be much more controlled, monitored, and in the end ethical.  I also love that there are family reunifications that take place and are even celebrated from the orphanage that our agency works with.  There was also one local adoption that was completed this past year (a Basotho couple adopting from within Lesotho).

Just after I wrote my last post I received an email from our agency saying sorry but you were not matched at the meeting that was held this week.  Of course, our file had just arrived and I would not expect it to have even been read over let alone matched!  But it does feel crazy to know it is in the hands of their social workers now.  I received an email this week saying that the next matching meeting will hopefully be today.   Crazy!  I highly doubt we will be matched but part of me thinks that if there is a child with the exact medical needs and age range that we said we want to adopt then maybe we could be getting a phone call!!!  Oh man, this is going to be a long few years...

May 24, 2014

Officially paper pregnant!!!

Who knew you could be so excited to officially wait!

On May 22nd I got the email from our agency that our dossier had landed in Maseru, Lesotho.  It feels so crazy to know that a file with our pictures, our medical, our entire life story and essentially every detail about our lives is sitting somewhere in Lesotho right now!!!

What does this mean?

Well, our file will now be shown at the matching meetings that are held every 3-4 months.  Lesotho works differently than Ethiopia and doesn't exactly follow a list.  In Ethiopia you were essentially given a number and referrals came in that order.  In Lesotho, only a few dossiers (from each country that they work with- Canada, Sweden, US, and The Netherlands) are on the table at each meeting and the government workers will look at each file and find a family for the children that are ready to be adopted.  So this means we can be matched at any of these meetings at any time!

I'm not expecting to be matched for at least a year though.  I tell myself this because I am a realistic person but who knows what will happen!  The next meeting is sometime in June but these dates can also change.  We'll see if I remain calm in June…